I have been tempted to write this blog post for a few months now, and I was afraid of what kind of response I would receive from it, but honestly, I don't care anymore. I've had several life events happen during these last few months, and I keep dwelling on the topic. However, life is too short, you either live it to it's fullest potential, or you don't, and I want to make the most out of my life while I'm here on this planet.
A few months ago I had a friendship breakup/fallout/whatever you want to call it, with a best friend who meant a lot to me. I've had several of these throughout the years, but this one has hurt the most because I was the one who broke it off. I won't go into much detail about the friendship because I would like to keep that private. We had a fantastic friendship for a few years there, but we both evolved and we grew into different individuals than when our best friendship first started, thus causing us to go off in our own separate ways. I will admit that I probably could gone about the breakup in a different way, but unfortunately, that is in the past now.
Over time, the fact that I had to let go of this friendship hurt me because I was wondering if it was the right thing to do. The individual contacted me and told me how I had hurt them, and I understand, but our friendship became toxic and wasn't the healthiest thing for me in my life anymore, and I explained that to them. I would like to think that they understood what I was saying, but I know I can never take that hurt away from either one of us. However, I know the good memories I do have of that friend will last me for a lifetime, just like any of the other memories of friendships I have had fallouts with.
Honestly, I wish there was a source on the internet during this time that said it was okay, and maybe there is, but I couldn't seem to find it. So, I am writing this blog post to say that it is 100% okay to breakup with a best friend. It hurts, definitely, but breakups usually do, and if you think it is what is best for your life at that moment in time, then do it. I have been a happier person since then, and I have been able to focus on myself a lot more. My grades have greatly improved in school, and in my other relationships as well! I have been able to reconnect with a great friend that I've had for many years, and I love that we have been able to "rekindle" our friendship!
I guess, the purpose of this blog post is essentially, don't regret doing what you think is the right thing to do for yourself in your own life. If there is something you view as a negative entity in your life, one that you believe is pulling you down, then remove it. Life is extremely short, and we don't know how long we will be here for, so you have to make the most of it. During these past few months I was in a car accident, and it helped me have a little bit of a wake up call. I did absolutely nothing wrong, and I shouldn't feel guilty or hurt or feel bad about wanting what I want for myself and for my own life. I deserve happiness and I deserve to take control of my life.
I once saw a photo that said, "There are three types of friendship in life. Friends for a reason, some for a season, and others for a lifetime." I would like to call this friend a friend for a reason. They helped me through growing pains out of high school, and I will never forget what they have done for me. They have taught me a lesson about myself, and I am extremely grateful for that. If they are reading this, they know who they are, and I would just like to thank them.
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Wednesday, November 26, 2014
First Year Freshmen College Students
Sorry that I haven't posted anything in a week or so, I've been busy with school. Finals are coming up, so I'm trying to get all of my school work done and then start studying with less than 15 days left of school (YIKES)! Any pointers/tips for first year college freshmen? I would love to see them, and so would many readers!
Check out my top 5 pointers for college freshmen...
1) Attend class, as much as possible at least. I know that in high school everyone thought it was going to be soooooo cool to ditch class in college, or show up late. Granted, it's pretty cool showing up to class late, but try not to make a habit of it. You miss out on so much information whenever you skip class, and teachers more than likely won't go over it again just for you, unless they're super nice and you visit them during their office hours.
2) Do the homework! Yes, it's college, and yes, homework still matters. I can't even begin to tell you how many times that I have completed my homework and it has provided a little cushion for all of my test grades. It always helps the gluteus maximus when you have a little cushioning!
3) Keep an agenda/planner/sticky notes/etc. whatever it is that you find helpful to remind you about future events coming up. My agenda is now my baby. With so many assignments for different classes at different times of the week, and my work schedule, my agenda has given me that extra bit a of reassurance that I need to keep my sanity in school.
4) Syllabus- you'll more than likely get one from your professor for each class on the first day of school. That syllabus shall be your child. Treat it like one. Listen to it, observe it, love it, treasure it. In the end, it will be your savior for the rest of the semester.
5) Meet with your advisor- Just like in high school when you did a credit check with your counselor, meet up with your advisor. Sometimes you might have multiple advisors. I had three different advisors this year, one for peer advising (where an upperclassman tells you what study habits help and what classes can go towards your degree, mainly necessary to meet up with them as a homework assignment for your first year seminar class), then I had my actual advisor who is for the college of sciences, since I am a Biology major, and finally, a pre-professional advisor who helped me select the proper courses and change my major from Chem to Bio in order to prepare me to apply for graduate school within the next four years.
That's all of my pointers and tips that I can think of at 12:38 in the morning. I hope you guys enjoyed them and they will help you out somehow! If you have any tips, feel free to leave them in the comments section down below... have a fabulous day!
OH! I have another one!
BEWARE- THE FRESHMAN 15 IS REAL! I didn't think that I would gain any weight because I live off campus, but it happens. I have already gained 8 pounds, luckily I have also lost three, so hopefully it will all cancel out in the end, but just a heads up. The "Freshman 15" is no joke, sadly :(
Check out my top 5 pointers for college freshmen...
1) Attend class, as much as possible at least. I know that in high school everyone thought it was going to be soooooo cool to ditch class in college, or show up late. Granted, it's pretty cool showing up to class late, but try not to make a habit of it. You miss out on so much information whenever you skip class, and teachers more than likely won't go over it again just for you, unless they're super nice and you visit them during their office hours.
2) Do the homework! Yes, it's college, and yes, homework still matters. I can't even begin to tell you how many times that I have completed my homework and it has provided a little cushion for all of my test grades. It always helps the gluteus maximus when you have a little cushioning!
3) Keep an agenda/planner/sticky notes/etc. whatever it is that you find helpful to remind you about future events coming up. My agenda is now my baby. With so many assignments for different classes at different times of the week, and my work schedule, my agenda has given me that extra bit a of reassurance that I need to keep my sanity in school.
4) Syllabus- you'll more than likely get one from your professor for each class on the first day of school. That syllabus shall be your child. Treat it like one. Listen to it, observe it, love it, treasure it. In the end, it will be your savior for the rest of the semester.
5) Meet with your advisor- Just like in high school when you did a credit check with your counselor, meet up with your advisor. Sometimes you might have multiple advisors. I had three different advisors this year, one for peer advising (where an upperclassman tells you what study habits help and what classes can go towards your degree, mainly necessary to meet up with them as a homework assignment for your first year seminar class), then I had my actual advisor who is for the college of sciences, since I am a Biology major, and finally, a pre-professional advisor who helped me select the proper courses and change my major from Chem to Bio in order to prepare me to apply for graduate school within the next four years.
That's all of my pointers and tips that I can think of at 12:38 in the morning. I hope you guys enjoyed them and they will help you out somehow! If you have any tips, feel free to leave them in the comments section down below... have a fabulous day!
OH! I have another one!
BEWARE- THE FRESHMAN 15 IS REAL! I didn't think that I would gain any weight because I live off campus, but it happens. I have already gained 8 pounds, luckily I have also lost three, so hopefully it will all cancel out in the end, but just a heads up. The "Freshman 15" is no joke, sadly :(
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